Military Silence

I don't know if you have ever found yourself in a situation where you wanted to know what might be going on in your relationship. You are confused about the fidelity of the person you are with. I know it may seem the best things to do is to lurk around looking for clues. You might sit down with a friend and tell her about the things your significant other is doing and see if that friend comes up with the same conclusion. While all this might sound like good idea, they are the very essence of self destruction. Think carefully, what it you get caught sneaking through you mates belongs? You could lose that person's trust. When talking with a friend, are you the kind who is willing to speak of everything that happened? Thing you said and done also not just what the other person has done. If not, you have giving only half the story and that friend can only give you a mirror image of what you believe yourself. What if your friend is interested in your mate as well. Your friend may use you to destroy your relationship so that their new relationship with your mate can start.
  I believe in something called military silence. People with secrets to hide can not hide them forever. We all have to share with someone. The answers you are seeking will come with patients. Military silence is about shutting your mouth and opening your eyes to what is going on around you.
Actions speaks louder then words!
Have you ever paid attention to the look on someone's face when they smell a bad odor? They have an expression which seem to point out their nose has caught a whiff of something they don't like. The tale tell signs are there in front of you if you learn to pay attention. If you can learn to use patients and watch your mates behavior you can eventually get the truth. Never change your behavior towards that person. That means if you bring them a plate when food is done; keep doing it. You must be all you were before you started to have the suspicions. You must not talk with anyone about what is you are thinking. It might get back to them. Above all you must say little and watch the behavior more. Their change in routines can be cause by life changes and your fears will be put to rest. Whatever may happen, you will not have let yourself be change by it. Your mind will be clear of any guilt because you are doing all you are suppose to do. remember most of the time your actions could be the cause of their reactions.  All those who are cheating will always be faced with a choice. It makes it hard for them to keep cheating when you are more then that which is offered outside.