Venting

 Who made Pussy more valuable then Dick? Hello! It is a trip to watch the shaming of men. I watched a public service announcement which says, You teach him to hit a fast ball, You teach him to hit the open receiver, but what have you taught him not to hit. You know the underlining message was you should teach him not to hit women. Pay close attention to what these messages don't say. They don't say what a man should do if struck by a woman. In this day and age, Women have more of an upper hand then men. Okay yeah, I agree that women earn less doing the same jobs as a man. Check out the fact that look at the advantages women have over men. A grant to get higher education is harder to get for a man. It is no wonder that men have been devalued. We see why a man is sitting at home in a chair playing video games.
That bring me to another thing which was on my mind. The Chris Brown and Rihana situation. Every one was ready to crucify Chris brown. I think this is what might have happen the were headed out an other women began to text him. Like most women who are jealous she wanted to see the text but he would not let her see them. She got angry. She started to asking him to tell her who it was. He wouldn't tell her. That anger got her to thinking she want to see those text to see who sent them. Next thing she tries is taking to cell phone to see who it was text him. He resisted she then struck him because he would not let her take the device. Why should he? It was his device. Once a man is struck he will attack back. Now when angry we all can attest to a time when someone made you so angry you attack them and could not stop. This could have been the case here.
Once the pictures got out of her injuries, people began to sympathize with her. Her sale began to rise and she made money hand over foot. He on the other hand, He began to become the victim.

Awaken the Child the next place

There are many of you who might be wondering how thing were after the trash can issue. I need to take you back a bit though. I talk about me having sex at the tender age of 9yrs old. You might have thought to yourself; damn you were just a mannish child. I wish that was the case. I could then say to you guys I had a way with the girls.  My introduction to sex was not one of a conscience decision on my part. It was stirred by a slightly older aunt. The first time I was trick into showing her my thing. She ask me to lay down and she pulled off her clothes and straddle me. She place my penis in her vagina. She began moving up and down. I really didn't know what she was doing to me. I saw her making funny faces and noises. She pulled my hand up to her breast and rub them across. I guess I was in a state of shock because I didn't try to stop this immoral act. When it was all over, we got dress.  She told me, " you're gonna make some girl really happy". When she got ready to open the door; she lean in to tell me the one thing which told me she had done something wrong to me. She said," don't tell anyone this would be our own little secret". I had seen movies before in which adults did thing to children and say those very words. I was threaten by her like those movies though. I thought about telling some one. When I tried to I found that she would speak over me and tell them convincing stories. How can you compete
with someone they would believe over you. So I kept my silence.
It wasn't until the next time. I knew it was wrong and she was trying to trick me again. I wouldn't fall for it but there was no one in the house and I was at her mercy. She slapped me which all she had and drag me into a room. This time moving a dresser in front of the door. This way I could not move it to open the door and so other could not walk in on us. This way we had enough time to put on clothes before opening to door. My mother never knew why I hated staying with her. She assume it was because we are both Zodiac sign and can't get alone because we were too much alike.
It final stop happening when she was sent to live in New York. I think I was about 11 at that time.  I wouldn't see her again until I was 13. I was much taller and stronger by then. I would not let her do that again though she did try. I think that only serve to make her angry with me a lot. So much so, when I, my sister and cousins would be playing and get into dispute she would rush out to deem me wrong. She would try to provoke a physical fight which needless to say she would win. Then it seem when the older uncles and aunts would get involved they would believe her over me.

Let's Talk About Sex

We all love. We love in different ways. I know we never seem to take enough time to get to know one another's ways. I don't know about you, I seem to notice that there is always a monumental shift in people after sex. There are many who become possessive, others who become jealous, and still there are people who decide to be controlling.
Sex is the least talk about subject, but it is the most craved action in the United States.The question is why? What makes us desire sex? Is It television? I think we all crave sex in our own way. Men and women desire sex. Women desire a man who know what he is doing without being told what to do. Men crave the exact same thing. We all don't want to have to teach someone what to do. We want someone who is fulfilling our desires without a word from us.
I was 9 years old and curious about the opposite sex. It may sound strange; yet I know we have all thought about it even if we never indulged in sex like I did at that age. I can remember being at that age paying a girl a dollar just to take a look at her genital area. You can say I was quite curious about why they look differently. As time went on, I wanted to know all the things I needed know; if I ever wanted to get married. See me, It was a essential to know so that If I ever got married, I would never have to worry about the woman in my life leaving me because she was never satisfied sexually. I had seen these thing happening all to often.
One thing that I knew might seen to be bad is the fact that in order to learn the things I needed to know is that I would have to use women to achieve my goal and I did. Sorry ladies, I know it was a terrible thing to do but it was a must. I began my learning process at the age of 15. The time when relationships last all of 3 months at best. You might be able to remember the junior high years. It was a hard road for me.
 I would start my journey with meeting someone who was interested in me whom I only talk to over phone. Lol, The phone became an interesting device to use to my advantage. I use to think I was ugly believe it or not. I thought that over the phone; I could be ever thing a woman could want. It was hard for a woman to let you go when she was already in love with who you are.  I started learning that relationship follow a pattern. That pattern went we meet, we get to know one another, we fall in love, we look for fault, we destroy the relationship, and when the relationship is over we look at the good time. Many of us began to look at our past as to why we broke up later. That is why we tend to keep going back into a relationship that we have been in before. Ever wonder why two people would break up only to get back together? It is simple. They keep thinking they made mistakes they can change. If you put all of your heart in something you never have to look back. This is the real problem. Now let me get back on track.
I began by going after women who were married. They won't clown on you because they had men, at least I thought. What I found out is that women who have lost the love for the men they are with; can act more jealous then women without a man at times. They would treat you like the man they were with at home.
Now let's get to the meat and potatoes of the sex thing.
I use to hear that man went down on women to secure his place in her life. I thought there was a better way.
I thought that a man who goes to sleep after sex was a tired old man. I found out there are many that were younger then thirty. I believe that every man who had  sex with a woman should put her to sleep. After he was done then he should go cook something to help her get her strength back. In order to achieve this we have to start with the basic. Every man knows where to put it but he should know how to move it.
Every woman might agree that some men act as though they have never had a woman. You know the ones. They rush into every thing like it is a race to get an orgasm. He usually wins that race in five or ten minutes. Then he rolls over and get some sleep or ask how was it. Women the first thing I know is it took a lot of trust from you to get to the point of having you sexually. That trust took time to build, so take your time don't rush.
Okay men, once you enter her it is time to pay attention to her. Believe it or not, every woman wants to succeed at getting her orgasm. Although at time you are just trying to please your man's sexual appetite. So she will not talk but she will give you clues to what feels good and what doesn't. So I can't stress this too much, look into her eyes and watch her expressions. She will tell you everything you need to know with her eyes and body language. This way you will never again have use those dumb words,"was it good for you".   I have too much to say on this subject so let me leave it for now and I will continue this later...
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The Wondering Heart

Have you ever been in love with someone who decided it was over? I know many women who know this all to well. You put your heart into the relationship only to have him leave you. I had this happen to me.  I was not a dumb person but chose to play games. You know some of them. She would be on the phone holding conversation. Let's see if you recognize this.

• Hello 
• No
• Yes
• No 
• uh huh 
• Okay bye

Mind you, I could only hear her side of the conversation. So I could imagine the other end.

• Hello 
• Can you talk?
• Oh is your man there?
• You gonna be able to talk later?
• Give me a call when he is not around. 
• Okay bye baby

 I know it could have been nothing, except when she got a call from a friend or relative the calls were more expressive. You know it was something wrong. You knew she is up to no good when there is a smile on her face and you didn't put it there. Then one day in a heated argument she announce she and I were through. It was the worst feeling in the world to loose some one you loved. It for me was like some one had taking a gun out and shoot me straight in the chess. I didn't know what to do. The worst part of this was I was living  with her, I was far from home where I could not call someone help me to regroup. My car was broken down. I had to stay there with the woman who has found a new lover. To make matter worst, the week after the announcement she wanted me to stay at home with the kids while she went out with him. The very next day, she would take me out, dutch bye the way. That is what made it funny. Every time they went out the next day we would go out.
 I finally decided to get out of that house. I saw her as a woman who wanted her cake and eat it to. She asked me to move out but not leave the area. Her reasoning for that was that what if the computer or the car needed fixing. I couldn't believe that this seemingly intelligent woman actually said those words. That was what I now call a bottle water moment. It just had to be something in the water. So you guys pay close attention to things which go on around you. It may be another wondering heart.

Opposites Attract

It has long been said that opposites attract. I know you might have heard this said by someone you are close to. I seen the examples myself of what they say. you see a tall man with a short woman, a dark man with a light skinned woman, and even a fat man with a skinny woman. These are all what we call opposites, right. (smile)
I know the world use to confuse me with this being a truth. The real truth is that the so called "they" don't know what they are talking about. We were taught thing have an opposite, so we assume it works on a relationship level with people. The only place where opposites attract is when it comes to magnets. Think about it we don't choose our friends using this opposite rules. you meet someone who is the opposite of you; you are not going to like having them around very much. You'd want to go right, they'd want to go left. You'd say yes, they'd say no. If someone was the total opposite of you, it would drive you nuts. Try to use this with a mate you have chosen. You want to go out and have fun. They want to stay at home. You want to sit and talk. They want to watch television. You want to make love and they want to get some sleep. I can bet you one thing and I only take sure bets. You want be in that relationship very long. Could you imagine if you were a good girl and he was always the bad boy getting into trouble. You having to bail him out all the time would eventually get old. I imagine there are many of you women who know that one. 

The appearance of what we call opposite is just a coincidence. The real truth is that we choose our friend and mates base on what we have in common. I remember the things taught to me as a young man. We still hear these things today. If a woman gave up the goodies to soon, she might give it to the next man just as fast. What we men have fell to understand is this woman felt a real connection to you. That only comes from the communication, talks, she had with that man. That woman thought he was being totally truthful about who he was and his intentions. She really thought she had found more connections with him then any other man. It is time that we wake up and see thing for what they really are. No matter how you put it, opposite won't make a good relationship.