Every woman can remember those three in the morning nudging, when your partner is up lying next to you, his penis is erect, and he is pushing it up against you trying to get you to notice he is horny. I as a man, would say it is a woman's job to get that erection down any time it gets up. What about those times when you have to get up early to got to work?
What should you do when he is ready but you are worried about the amount of sleep you are gonna miss?
Here is a suggestion, turn over let him know you have to go to work early. Then promise that you will give him the session of his life as soon as you get home. To make it solid, reach down and stroke bulging man hood, use the name you gave it, and tell it you'll get back with him. Believe me this foreplay will keep him waiting for more. He will be thinking about when you both get home what you are gonna do to him. Remember you must keep your promise tired or not. Like you he is looking at broken promises and keeping score.
Since I know all situations are different. Here is another idea; give him what he wants. Tell him he has a time limit you have to get some good sleep. Now if he can't get his before that time he will be happy to wait until you have time since you at least tried to let him have what he wants. Be aware that he will hungrier for you the next time you have time for a love making session.
Friday, November 30, 2012
Saturday, June 2, 2012
The Myth
I want to tell you fellows a thing I think you should know about love. Love is being a part of your kids lives as well as the life of the woman. That means when things come up like a activity for your kids be there.
Today I decide to take my kids fishing. I know it will be a blast. I don't know where the memo came from of waiting for your kids to be old enough to teach them something you want to teach them. They are old enough when they can understand the words you say out of your mouth.
Let me tell you a story. When my oldest child was born I began to think out how we should raise her. I thought about the funny things we have done for many years in my own birth family. One of those things was how we talk to them. I believed that if we talk to them using the dumb baby language then how can we get them to learn what we are saying. So I made it a point to never talk to her in that way.
When she was just 8 months old, my mother and the baby's mother came in and gave her a piece of candy. She took the candy unwrapped it and thew the candy wrapper on the floor. I immediately told her, "pick that wrapper up and throw it in the trash". Before she could make a move, my mother said, "she don't know what you are saying leave her alone". I look at my mother and laughed. I turned to my child with a firm tone I said," they don't think you understand what I am saying but we know better now pick that wrapper up and put it in the trash". She walk over picked up the wrapper, went over to the trash, and place the it in the trash can.
Believe it or not, Women love to see there man interact with the kids like a big kid yourself.
(Note: this is only when playing with the kids once that is over act an adult. ) Being there for your kids that to a woman is a good man. More so then that, as a man we have many roles we have to fill. these are just some of the roles I think about on a daily bases. What ever you do, do it with the understanding that these are the things that enhance your children, your woman, and your life. Cause to be honest a woman would love a break from the kid/s. We know when the woman in our life is happy that night we get a taste of the happiness.
Today I decide to take my kids fishing. I know it will be a blast. I don't know where the memo came from of waiting for your kids to be old enough to teach them something you want to teach them. They are old enough when they can understand the words you say out of your mouth.
Let me tell you a story. When my oldest child was born I began to think out how we should raise her. I thought about the funny things we have done for many years in my own birth family. One of those things was how we talk to them. I believed that if we talk to them using the dumb baby language then how can we get them to learn what we are saying. So I made it a point to never talk to her in that way.
When she was just 8 months old, my mother and the baby's mother came in and gave her a piece of candy. She took the candy unwrapped it and thew the candy wrapper on the floor. I immediately told her, "pick that wrapper up and throw it in the trash". Before she could make a move, my mother said, "she don't know what you are saying leave her alone". I look at my mother and laughed. I turned to my child with a firm tone I said," they don't think you understand what I am saying but we know better now pick that wrapper up and put it in the trash". She walk over picked up the wrapper, went over to the trash, and place the it in the trash can.
Believe it or not, Women love to see there man interact with the kids like a big kid yourself.
(Note: this is only when playing with the kids once that is over act an adult. ) Being there for your kids that to a woman is a good man. More so then that, as a man we have many roles we have to fill. these are just some of the roles I think about on a daily bases. What ever you do, do it with the understanding that these are the things that enhance your children, your woman, and your life. Cause to be honest a woman would love a break from the kid/s. We know when the woman in our life is happy that night we get a taste of the happiness.
Monday, May 28, 2012
Venting
Who made Pussy more valuable then Dick? Hello! It is a trip to watch the shaming of men. I watched a public service announcement which says, You teach him to hit a fast ball, You teach him to hit the open receiver, but what have you taught him not to hit. You know the underlining message was you should teach him not to hit women. Pay close attention to what these messages don't say. They don't say what a man should do if struck by a woman. In this day and age, Women have more of an upper hand then men. Okay yeah, I agree that women earn less doing the same jobs as a man. Check out the fact that look at the advantages women have over men. A grant to get higher education is harder to get for a man. It is no wonder that men have been devalued. We see why a man is sitting at home in a chair playing video games.
That bring me to another thing which was on my mind. The Chris Brown and Rihana situation. Every one was ready to crucify Chris brown. I think this is what might have happen the were headed out an other women began to text him. Like most women who are jealous she wanted to see the text but he would not let her see them. She got angry. She started to asking him to tell her who it was. He wouldn't tell her. That anger got her to thinking she want to see those text to see who sent them. Next thing she tries is taking to cell phone to see who it was text him. He resisted she then struck him because he would not let her take the device. Why should he? It was his device. Once a man is struck he will attack back. Now when angry we all can attest to a time when someone made you so angry you attack them and could not stop. This could have been the case here.
Once the pictures got out of her injuries, people began to sympathize with her. Her sale began to rise and she made money hand over foot. He on the other hand, He began to become the victim.
That bring me to another thing which was on my mind. The Chris Brown and Rihana situation. Every one was ready to crucify Chris brown. I think this is what might have happen the were headed out an other women began to text him. Like most women who are jealous she wanted to see the text but he would not let her see them. She got angry. She started to asking him to tell her who it was. He wouldn't tell her. That anger got her to thinking she want to see those text to see who sent them. Next thing she tries is taking to cell phone to see who it was text him. He resisted she then struck him because he would not let her take the device. Why should he? It was his device. Once a man is struck he will attack back. Now when angry we all can attest to a time when someone made you so angry you attack them and could not stop. This could have been the case here.
Once the pictures got out of her injuries, people began to sympathize with her. Her sale began to rise and she made money hand over foot. He on the other hand, He began to become the victim.
Tuesday, May 15, 2012
Awaken the Child the next place
There are many of you who might be wondering how thing were after the trash can issue. I need to take you back a bit though. I talk about me having sex at the tender age of 9yrs old. You might have thought to yourself; damn you were just a mannish child. I wish that was the case. I could then say to you guys I had a way with the girls. My introduction to sex was not one of a conscience decision on my part. It was stirred by a slightly older aunt. The first time I was trick into showing her my thing. She ask me to lay down and she pulled off her clothes and straddle me. She place my penis in her vagina. She began moving up and down. I really didn't know what she was doing to me. I saw her making funny faces and noises. She pulled my hand up to her breast and rub them across. I guess I was in a state of shock because I didn't try to stop this immoral act. When it was all over, we got dress. She told me, " you're gonna make some girl really happy". When she got ready to open the door; she lean in to tell me the one thing which told me she had done something wrong to me. She said," don't tell anyone this would be our own little secret". I had seen movies before in which adults did thing to children and say those very words. I was threaten by her like those movies though. I thought about telling some one. When I tried to I found that she would speak over me and tell them convincing stories. How can you compete
with someone they would believe over you. So I kept my silence.
It wasn't until the next time. I knew it was wrong and she was trying to trick me again. I wouldn't fall for it but there was no one in the house and I was at her mercy. She slapped me which all she had and drag me into a room. This time moving a dresser in front of the door. This way I could not move it to open the door and so other could not walk in on us. This way we had enough time to put on clothes before opening to door. My mother never knew why I hated staying with her. She assume it was because we are both Zodiac sign and can't get alone because we were too much alike.
It final stop happening when she was sent to live in New York. I think I was about 11 at that time. I wouldn't see her again until I was 13. I was much taller and stronger by then. I would not let her do that again though she did try. I think that only serve to make her angry with me a lot. So much so, when I, my sister and cousins would be playing and get into dispute she would rush out to deem me wrong. She would try to provoke a physical fight which needless to say she would win. Then it seem when the older uncles and aunts would get involved they would believe her over me.
with someone they would believe over you. So I kept my silence.
It wasn't until the next time. I knew it was wrong and she was trying to trick me again. I wouldn't fall for it but there was no one in the house and I was at her mercy. She slapped me which all she had and drag me into a room. This time moving a dresser in front of the door. This way I could not move it to open the door and so other could not walk in on us. This way we had enough time to put on clothes before opening to door. My mother never knew why I hated staying with her. She assume it was because we are both Zodiac sign and can't get alone because we were too much alike.
It final stop happening when she was sent to live in New York. I think I was about 11 at that time. I wouldn't see her again until I was 13. I was much taller and stronger by then. I would not let her do that again though she did try. I think that only serve to make her angry with me a lot. So much so, when I, my sister and cousins would be playing and get into dispute she would rush out to deem me wrong. She would try to provoke a physical fight which needless to say she would win. Then it seem when the older uncles and aunts would get involved they would believe her over me.
Tuesday, May 8, 2012
Let's Talk About Sex
We all love. We love in different ways. I know we never seem to take enough time to get to know one another's ways. I don't know about you, I seem to notice that there is always a monumental shift in people after sex. There are many who become possessive, others who become jealous, and still there are people who decide to be controlling.
Sex is the least talk about subject, but it is the most craved action in the United States.The question is why? What makes us desire sex? Is It television? I think we all crave sex in our own way. Men and women desire sex. Women desire a man who know what he is doing without being told what to do. Men crave the exact same thing. We all don't want to have to teach someone what to do. We want someone who is fulfilling our desires without a word from us.
I was 9 years old and curious about the opposite sex. It may sound strange; yet I know we have all thought about it even if we never indulged in sex like I did at that age. I can remember being at that age paying a girl a dollar just to take a look at her genital area. You can say I was quite curious about why they look differently. As time went on, I wanted to know all the things I needed know; if I ever wanted to get married. See me, It was a essential to know so that If I ever got married, I would never have to worry about the woman in my life leaving me because she was never satisfied sexually. I had seen these thing happening all to often.
One thing that I knew might seen to be bad is the fact that in order to learn the things I needed to know is that I would have to use women to achieve my goal and I did. Sorry ladies, I know it was a terrible thing to do but it was a must. I began my learning process at the age of 15. The time when relationships last all of 3 months at best. You might be able to remember the junior high years. It was a hard road for me.
I would start my journey with meeting someone who was interested in me whom I only talk to over phone. Lol, The phone became an interesting device to use to my advantage. I use to think I was ugly believe it or not. I thought that over the phone; I could be ever thing a woman could want. It was hard for a woman to let you go when she was already in love with who you are. I started learning that relationship follow a pattern. That pattern went we meet, we get to know one another, we fall in love, we look for fault, we destroy the relationship, and when the relationship is over we look at the good time. Many of us began to look at our past as to why we broke up later. That is why we tend to keep going back into a relationship that we have been in before. Ever wonder why two people would break up only to get back together? It is simple. They keep thinking they made mistakes they can change. If you put all of your heart in something you never have to look back. This is the real problem. Now let me get back on track.
I began by going after women who were married. They won't clown on you because they had men, at least I thought. What I found out is that women who have lost the love for the men they are with; can act more jealous then women without a man at times. They would treat you like the man they were with at home.
Now let's get to the meat and potatoes of the sex thing.
I use to hear that man went down on women to secure his place in her life. I thought there was a better way.
I thought that a man who goes to sleep after sex was a tired old man. I found out there are many that were younger then thirty. I believe that every man who had sex with a woman should put her to sleep. After he was done then he should go cook something to help her get her strength back. In order to achieve this we have to start with the basic. Every man knows where to put it but he should know how to move it.
Every woman might agree that some men act as though they have never had a woman. You know the ones. They rush into every thing like it is a race to get an orgasm. He usually wins that race in five or ten minutes. Then he rolls over and get some sleep or ask how was it. Women the first thing I know is it took a lot of trust from you to get to the point of having you sexually. That trust took time to build, so take your time don't rush.
Okay men, once you enter her it is time to pay attention to her. Believe it or not, every woman wants to succeed at getting her orgasm. Although at time you are just trying to please your man's sexual appetite. So she will not talk but she will give you clues to what feels good and what doesn't. So I can't stress this too much, look into her eyes and watch her expressions. She will tell you everything you need to know with her eyes and body language. This way you will never again have use those dumb words,"was it good for you". I have too much to say on this subject so let me leave it for now and I will continue this later...
TOO BE CONTINUED.......................................................
Sex is the least talk about subject, but it is the most craved action in the United States.The question is why? What makes us desire sex? Is It television? I think we all crave sex in our own way. Men and women desire sex. Women desire a man who know what he is doing without being told what to do. Men crave the exact same thing. We all don't want to have to teach someone what to do. We want someone who is fulfilling our desires without a word from us.
I was 9 years old and curious about the opposite sex. It may sound strange; yet I know we have all thought about it even if we never indulged in sex like I did at that age. I can remember being at that age paying a girl a dollar just to take a look at her genital area. You can say I was quite curious about why they look differently. As time went on, I wanted to know all the things I needed know; if I ever wanted to get married. See me, It was a essential to know so that If I ever got married, I would never have to worry about the woman in my life leaving me because she was never satisfied sexually. I had seen these thing happening all to often.
One thing that I knew might seen to be bad is the fact that in order to learn the things I needed to know is that I would have to use women to achieve my goal and I did. Sorry ladies, I know it was a terrible thing to do but it was a must. I began my learning process at the age of 15. The time when relationships last all of 3 months at best. You might be able to remember the junior high years. It was a hard road for me.
I would start my journey with meeting someone who was interested in me whom I only talk to over phone. Lol, The phone became an interesting device to use to my advantage. I use to think I was ugly believe it or not. I thought that over the phone; I could be ever thing a woman could want. It was hard for a woman to let you go when she was already in love with who you are. I started learning that relationship follow a pattern. That pattern went we meet, we get to know one another, we fall in love, we look for fault, we destroy the relationship, and when the relationship is over we look at the good time. Many of us began to look at our past as to why we broke up later. That is why we tend to keep going back into a relationship that we have been in before. Ever wonder why two people would break up only to get back together? It is simple. They keep thinking they made mistakes they can change. If you put all of your heart in something you never have to look back. This is the real problem. Now let me get back on track.
I began by going after women who were married. They won't clown on you because they had men, at least I thought. What I found out is that women who have lost the love for the men they are with; can act more jealous then women without a man at times. They would treat you like the man they were with at home.
Now let's get to the meat and potatoes of the sex thing.
I use to hear that man went down on women to secure his place in her life. I thought there was a better way.
I thought that a man who goes to sleep after sex was a tired old man. I found out there are many that were younger then thirty. I believe that every man who had sex with a woman should put her to sleep. After he was done then he should go cook something to help her get her strength back. In order to achieve this we have to start with the basic. Every man knows where to put it but he should know how to move it.
Every woman might agree that some men act as though they have never had a woman. You know the ones. They rush into every thing like it is a race to get an orgasm. He usually wins that race in five or ten minutes. Then he rolls over and get some sleep or ask how was it. Women the first thing I know is it took a lot of trust from you to get to the point of having you sexually. That trust took time to build, so take your time don't rush.
Okay men, once you enter her it is time to pay attention to her. Believe it or not, every woman wants to succeed at getting her orgasm. Although at time you are just trying to please your man's sexual appetite. So she will not talk but she will give you clues to what feels good and what doesn't. So I can't stress this too much, look into her eyes and watch her expressions. She will tell you everything you need to know with her eyes and body language. This way you will never again have use those dumb words,"was it good for you". I have too much to say on this subject so let me leave it for now and I will continue this later...
TOO BE CONTINUED.......................................................
Monday, May 7, 2012
The Wondering Heart
Have you ever been in love with someone who decided it was over? I know many women who know this all to well. You put your heart into the relationship only to have him leave you. I had this happen to me. I was not a dumb person but chose to play games. You know some of them. She would be on the phone holding conversation. Let's see if you recognize this.
I finally decided to get out of that house. I saw her as a woman who wanted her cake and eat it to. She asked me to move out but not leave the area. Her reasoning for that was that what if the computer or the car needed fixing. I couldn't believe that this seemingly intelligent woman actually said those words. That was what I now call a bottle water moment. It just had to be something in the water. So you guys pay close attention to things which go on around you. It may be another wondering heart.
- Hello
- No
- Yes
- No
- uh huh
- Okay bye
- Hello
- Can you talk?
- Oh is your man there?
- You gonna be able to talk later?
- Give me a call when he is not around.
- Okay bye baby
I finally decided to get out of that house. I saw her as a woman who wanted her cake and eat it to. She asked me to move out but not leave the area. Her reasoning for that was that what if the computer or the car needed fixing. I couldn't believe that this seemingly intelligent woman actually said those words. That was what I now call a bottle water moment. It just had to be something in the water. So you guys pay close attention to things which go on around you. It may be another wondering heart.
Friday, May 4, 2012
Opposites Attract
It has long been said that opposites attract. I know you might have heard this said by someone you are close to. I seen the examples myself of what they say. you see a tall man with a short woman, a dark man with a light skinned woman, and even a fat man with a skinny woman. These are all what we call opposites, right. (smile)
I know the world use to confuse me with this being a truth. The real truth is that the so called "they" don't know what they are talking about. We were taught thing have an opposite, so we assume it works on a relationship level with people. The only place where opposites attract is when it comes to magnets. Think about it we don't choose our friends using this opposite rules. you meet someone who is the opposite of you; you are not going to like having them around very much. You'd want to go right, they'd want to go left. You'd say yes, they'd say no. If someone was the total opposite of you, it would drive you nuts. Try to use this with a mate you have chosen. You want to go out and have fun. They want to stay at home. You want to sit and talk. They want to watch television. You want to make love and they want to get some sleep. I can bet you one thing and I only take sure bets. You want be in that relationship very long. Could you imagine if you were a good girl and he was always the bad boy getting into trouble. You having to bail him out all the time would eventually get old. I imagine there are many of you women who know that one.
The appearance of what we call opposite is just a coincidence. The real truth is that we choose our friend and mates base on what we have in common. I remember the things taught to me as a young man. We still hear these things today. If a woman gave up the goodies to soon, she might give it to the next man just as fast. What we men have fell to understand is this woman felt a real connection to you. That only comes from the communication, talks, she had with that man. That woman thought he was being totally truthful about who he was and his intentions. She really thought she had found more connections with him then any other man. It is time that we wake up and see thing for what they really are. No matter how you put it, opposite won't make a good relationship.
I know the world use to confuse me with this being a truth. The real truth is that the so called "they" don't know what they are talking about. We were taught thing have an opposite, so we assume it works on a relationship level with people. The only place where opposites attract is when it comes to magnets. Think about it we don't choose our friends using this opposite rules. you meet someone who is the opposite of you; you are not going to like having them around very much. You'd want to go right, they'd want to go left. You'd say yes, they'd say no. If someone was the total opposite of you, it would drive you nuts. Try to use this with a mate you have chosen. You want to go out and have fun. They want to stay at home. You want to sit and talk. They want to watch television. You want to make love and they want to get some sleep. I can bet you one thing and I only take sure bets. You want be in that relationship very long. Could you imagine if you were a good girl and he was always the bad boy getting into trouble. You having to bail him out all the time would eventually get old. I imagine there are many of you women who know that one.
The appearance of what we call opposite is just a coincidence. The real truth is that we choose our friend and mates base on what we have in common. I remember the things taught to me as a young man. We still hear these things today. If a woman gave up the goodies to soon, she might give it to the next man just as fast. What we men have fell to understand is this woman felt a real connection to you. That only comes from the communication, talks, she had with that man. That woman thought he was being totally truthful about who he was and his intentions. She really thought she had found more connections with him then any other man. It is time that we wake up and see thing for what they really are. No matter how you put it, opposite won't make a good relationship.
Monday, April 30, 2012
Where am I going?
I know for many of you who have embarked on taking a look at my blog pages; you wonder what they are all about. I really didn't know what I wanted to write about at first. I want to give you a glimpse into the world of a black man's life in Mississippi. Then I thought why not just talk about some of my thoughts on the things I notice everyday. In the end I decided the blog should be about something near and dear to my heart, Love.
We all crave love. We all wonder lot of things about that one four letter word. Why do we keep finding to same type of people to love? What is it that I do not do that others do that get them the right person? How does I over come my fears of approaching someone I'm interested in? Even how do I get over a person I love who does not love me?
While I don't claim to have all the answers nor think I can have you to think like a man and act like a lady. Together I think we can work on this life's problem and solve it. I like to know what you are thinking also. Maybe with open honest dialogue we may just both come to deeper understanding of love. I keep myself as a open book like a dairy so that life's knowledge never past me by. I will began to define as many questions I get over these coming days and years. I hope that maybe I will have an answer to something that has been burning in you. I like you, the reader, to not only walk away with an answer but a way of handling you next love. Oh and if it isn't any trouble become a subscriber. Remember, It don't cost you a thing.
We all crave love. We all wonder lot of things about that one four letter word. Why do we keep finding to same type of people to love? What is it that I do not do that others do that get them the right person? How does I over come my fears of approaching someone I'm interested in? Even how do I get over a person I love who does not love me?
While I don't claim to have all the answers nor think I can have you to think like a man and act like a lady. Together I think we can work on this life's problem and solve it. I like to know what you are thinking also. Maybe with open honest dialogue we may just both come to deeper understanding of love. I keep myself as a open book like a dairy so that life's knowledge never past me by. I will began to define as many questions I get over these coming days and years. I hope that maybe I will have an answer to something that has been burning in you. I like you, the reader, to not only walk away with an answer but a way of handling you next love. Oh and if it isn't any trouble become a subscriber. Remember, It don't cost you a thing.
Saturday, April 21, 2012
Why Do Men Go Down on Women
I got this crazy question this morning. Why do men go down on women? How crazy is that? I like to share some insight on this topic, but first let me ask the universal question. Why does anyone go down on anyone? It is a simple question with many answers. A many of us men as boys use to hear and say to each other this things. "You must be eating the pussy". I know you would like me to use the proper term but the slang word is what we used. We only use these words when we can't understand why a particular girl is treating a friend of ours like we would like a girl to treat us. So in a way, we thought that what makes a girl treat us like a king is because a boy went down on her. Though this may not be the case, it did make you wonder. As men we are always trying to find that thing which would keep a woman loving us for life.
Ask any woman who has someone going down on her the way she likes it; she will tell you it is the best feeling in the world. Ask any woman who has never had it done right; she will say what's the big deal. Whose right? They are both right in this regard. All of us have wanted someone who has good love making skills on top of sparking the feeling we get for wanting to be with them. We look for the total package to complete our life. If we think we found that, we would marry that person. No questions asked. The funny thing is that we live in a society which inhibits the talk of sex which makes it so popular. I know ladies it seems sick to watch a porno flick with your man but that is a topic of another day. You must admit one thing your body did not come with a manual on how to handle it. Most of what you have learned came from trial and error. On top of that, what woman wants to teach a man something he could use with another woman.
With all that being said here is a simple answer; which many of you will disagree. We go down on each other because we love the reaction. Think about it like this. We are not being stimulated by the other while preforming oral sex. You gauge whether or not we are doing it right by the reaction the other gives you. In the end we want always know if it is done correctly unless our partner tells us. You must admit when it is done right for you, it feels damn good. And for those who have never had it done right, I want to offer my sincere condolences. You want understand what the big deal is until you have been there.
Ask any woman who has someone going down on her the way she likes it; she will tell you it is the best feeling in the world. Ask any woman who has never had it done right; she will say what's the big deal. Whose right? They are both right in this regard. All of us have wanted someone who has good love making skills on top of sparking the feeling we get for wanting to be with them. We look for the total package to complete our life. If we think we found that, we would marry that person. No questions asked. The funny thing is that we live in a society which inhibits the talk of sex which makes it so popular. I know ladies it seems sick to watch a porno flick with your man but that is a topic of another day. You must admit one thing your body did not come with a manual on how to handle it. Most of what you have learned came from trial and error. On top of that, what woman wants to teach a man something he could use with another woman.
With all that being said here is a simple answer; which many of you will disagree. We go down on each other because we love the reaction. Think about it like this. We are not being stimulated by the other while preforming oral sex. You gauge whether or not we are doing it right by the reaction the other gives you. In the end we want always know if it is done correctly unless our partner tells us. You must admit when it is done right for you, it feels damn good. And for those who have never had it done right, I want to offer my sincere condolences. You want understand what the big deal is until you have been there.
Monday, April 16, 2012
The Most Important Thing In Relationship
You ask anyone what the most important thing in relationship; the response will be trust. The truth of it is that you want to have trust in any relationship. Your trust is held more important than the love itself. I know you may think of it differently, but it is true. I say the most important thing in a relationship is communication. No relationship even begins without communication. It can be verbal or nonverbal but it is communication non the less.
There is a test I use to prove to people that love is not important. In fact it is the lest important thing when it comes to relationship. See we are all wanting to stay away from a place called unhappiness. Unhappiness is the disease we are trying to kill from our lives. The way we do this is to attack the symptoms that lead to love with a passion that overrides the fear.
I'll prove it by giving you a small test to see what leads you to love.
First I need you to pull out a piece of paper. Next I will ask you question which allows you to choose which is more important to you. Remember you can only give from one of these choices nothing is equal one of them can only be your choice. Okay, write it choice down place to most important at the top and the least important on the bottom. I'll give you an example: what is more important Love or Communication? You say communication.
So, place communication above love. Next I ask, what is more important love or trust? If trust is more important place trust over love. Then test yourself to see which is more important trust or communication. Your answer is communication.
He is how your list should look:
Okay, which is more important love or respect? It's getting tougher to answer some, huh. Okay, what is more important respect or honesty? Now, which is more important respect or trust? Which is more important to you respect or communication?
By now, you are seeing Love is falling at the bottom of the list. This shows you that you need all these things before love. Oh, don't forget we are curing the symptoms of unhappiness. Each step is leading you to love. When you meet someone they have to meet the requirements listed there before you can start to say I Love You. I hope this will help understand a little more about love and how you choose who you will love.
There is a test I use to prove to people that love is not important. In fact it is the lest important thing when it comes to relationship. See we are all wanting to stay away from a place called unhappiness. Unhappiness is the disease we are trying to kill from our lives. The way we do this is to attack the symptoms that lead to love with a passion that overrides the fear.
I'll prove it by giving you a small test to see what leads you to love.
First I need you to pull out a piece of paper. Next I will ask you question which allows you to choose which is more important to you. Remember you can only give from one of these choices nothing is equal one of them can only be your choice. Okay, write it choice down place to most important at the top and the least important on the bottom. I'll give you an example: what is more important Love or Communication? You say communication.
So, place communication above love. Next I ask, what is more important love or trust? If trust is more important place trust over love. Then test yourself to see which is more important trust or communication. Your answer is communication.
He is how your list should look:
- communication
- trust
- love
Okay, which is more important love or respect? It's getting tougher to answer some, huh. Okay, what is more important respect or honesty? Now, which is more important respect or trust? Which is more important to you respect or communication?
By now, you are seeing Love is falling at the bottom of the list. This shows you that you need all these things before love. Oh, don't forget we are curing the symptoms of unhappiness. Each step is leading you to love. When you meet someone they have to meet the requirements listed there before you can start to say I Love You. I hope this will help understand a little more about love and how you choose who you will love.
Monday, April 2, 2012
Why Do We Cheat
I know every woman would love to know why men want to have multiple women. Basically you are asking why do men cheat. I am a man, and I have the secret to why men cheat. Do you really want to know why we cheat? Do you really want to know what makes a man cheat? I'll tell you what makes a man cheat. It's simple other women. You know when you as a woman is not doing the things you need to do to make him happy.
What I found is that when most start the process of cheating; it is not a conscious choice in the beginning. It is usually a matter of a slow and gradual process. It begins with having arguments in which all that needs to be said is not said. Think about some arguments you've had in the past. I bet you'll find that there are times that you making an argument when that person is no longer there. You do it in your mind, while you're driving your car, or sitting alone. You find yourself thinking about things you should have say to them which would have got your point across. Later on you try to bring the argument again just to say the things you wanted to say to get an understanding but It seems as though It is fallen on deaf ears.
When you are puzzle about how to get the person you love to understand you; sometimes you try to get outside help. You begin talk with others outside the relationship like friends, relatives, and even co-workers. They all try to help you by giving you the advice they would do themselves. Here my problem with that! I don't care whose giving you advise, They may say, "if I were in your shoes, I would do whatever". The truth is no one can be in another person shoes and not still be themselves. You know your situation better then they do. You are never going to tell much of the other person's side of the argument. You can't because you are not the other person and therefore you don't know what their interpretation of the argument was about.
I want you to remember that most affairs occurs at work. There are times when other people are going through similar situations. That person who chooses to talk with a co-worker about the things going on at home; usually finds a person dealing with something close to there own circumstances at home.
Now this creates a position similar to two people meeting and getting to know someone for the first time. Do you see what I am getting at yet? These two people didn't start out with the intentions of cheating. They started out with the idea of getting help with the understanding of how to change the situations at home. They talk with the other person and then try to talk with the person at home. After a while of seeing words falling on deaf ears and continuing to talk the person at work, you find that you and the co-worker have similar beliefs about how things should be in love and relationship. All of a sudden, their eyes start to open. They think about the person at work more then the person at home. The person at home doesn't always know about the talks at work from you. You give up on trying to come to an understanding with them. She thinks she is just glad you stop bringing it up and it is over now we can move on to other more important things. The conversation has stop at home and more is going on at work.
Friday, March 30, 2012
Passion
Hhhhhmmm, I want to talk to you about finding the passion you been looking for. I know it seems like passion may be miles away, but passion could be right in your face. You missed it, huh. So many of you have been looking for passion in that thug. He is not about passion. He is about getting the job done. You want him because he could handle you. Now, you can't handle him. May be it is time to find some one you can get this grand passion you have been looking for.
Passion has many faces. It is something you must give in order to receive. I think of passion being like a flower blossom it will keep close up until it feels the warmth of the sun. We all have passions it takes the right person to bring it out of us. Passion comes when you learn how to be gentle with you touch.You take your time to caress the parts of you partner in every place. These touch is where the magic lives. Every woman needs you to look into her eyes as though you were looking at the thing you most desire. You will also need to learn the secret to a great kiss.
Kisses is the test of longevity of a relationship. I know most of us men have not yet learn how this works so I will try to give you what makes a great kiss. You can try this. You should gaze into her eyes and lean forward. This is your signal to her that you would like a kiss. When she leans in to kiss you you need to mimic how she is kissing you. If she is the type to kiss you like she is hungry give that same aggressive kiss. If she is someone who is a gentle kisser then kiss her slowly and tender. Remember this, no matter what you might believe a woman is attracted to herself. The more you put out to her things which are like herself the more you will get in return.
You must keep in mind that passion is not about sex. It is about creating a memory. It can lead to sex but sex should never be your goal. What we are doing is make the type of memory which can surpass the relationship. What mean by this is that if you where married to her and pass away. That passion could hold her back from wanting to be with another man for quite some time. She will back away from any new suitors if he can not be as passionate as you were.
Passion has many faces. It is something you must give in order to receive. I think of passion being like a flower blossom it will keep close up until it feels the warmth of the sun. We all have passions it takes the right person to bring it out of us. Passion comes when you learn how to be gentle with you touch.You take your time to caress the parts of you partner in every place. These touch is where the magic lives. Every woman needs you to look into her eyes as though you were looking at the thing you most desire. You will also need to learn the secret to a great kiss.
Kisses is the test of longevity of a relationship. I know most of us men have not yet learn how this works so I will try to give you what makes a great kiss. You can try this. You should gaze into her eyes and lean forward. This is your signal to her that you would like a kiss. When she leans in to kiss you you need to mimic how she is kissing you. If she is the type to kiss you like she is hungry give that same aggressive kiss. If she is someone who is a gentle kisser then kiss her slowly and tender. Remember this, no matter what you might believe a woman is attracted to herself. The more you put out to her things which are like herself the more you will get in return.
You must keep in mind that passion is not about sex. It is about creating a memory. It can lead to sex but sex should never be your goal. What we are doing is make the type of memory which can surpass the relationship. What mean by this is that if you where married to her and pass away. That passion could hold her back from wanting to be with another man for quite some time. She will back away from any new suitors if he can not be as passionate as you were.
Tuesday, March 20, 2012
Men VS Women
Hello readers! I got to get a lot off my chest. Why is it that we fell into the lies they tell us? They tell us that men and women are as different as the sex organs. They have very different ways to get to the same goals, and because we have to label everything we think it is different. It seems different but the goals we are trying to reach is quite the same. Lets take one of the thing we hate most cheating. When a man is the outside lover; he keeps his mouth shut for the fear of no longer getting what he wants from the woman in a relationship already. When a woman is the outside lover; she will want to tell the other woman in hope to keep getting what she wants. Notice that is the same goal to keep the lover who has someone.
There was a friend of mine who suggested that all a man needed to have a sexual orgasm is a little friction. I had to stop and think at that moment because I have seen the movies. I told her you must have missed the fact that women need the same things to achieve the same affect an orgasm. With that in mind, Our sexual organs maybe design differently they actually work the same way. A mans sexual organ stiffens from blood flow causing it to become erect. A woman, on the other, has the same engorging of blood flow though her nearly penis shape clitoris does not protrude from her vagina cavity. This is why most women talk about a jumping sensation which they feel when they become aroused.
We men like to gossip just as much as the women does. We have the desire of being married just as much as women. We also put women through test to see if she is a woman worthy of our cherish. If there is one difference between women and men it is this, A woman does not think of sex as much as a man unless she is in love with a particular man.
There was a friend of mine who suggested that all a man needed to have a sexual orgasm is a little friction. I had to stop and think at that moment because I have seen the movies. I told her you must have missed the fact that women need the same things to achieve the same affect an orgasm. With that in mind, Our sexual organs maybe design differently they actually work the same way. A mans sexual organ stiffens from blood flow causing it to become erect. A woman, on the other, has the same engorging of blood flow though her nearly penis shape clitoris does not protrude from her vagina cavity. This is why most women talk about a jumping sensation which they feel when they become aroused.
We men like to gossip just as much as the women does. We have the desire of being married just as much as women. We also put women through test to see if she is a woman worthy of our cherish. If there is one difference between women and men it is this, A woman does not think of sex as much as a man unless she is in love with a particular man.
Monday, March 12, 2012
The News vs thinking
I woke up this morning feeling pretty good about life. Until I started watching the News! I don't know about you guys but it is one of those things as a kids I did like to do. Now that I am a man, I feel it is something I am compelled to do. Maybe this is something that is written in our DNA? Yet I'm getting so tired of the media trying to scare me with doom and gloom one day then try to sell me on the idea they have an answer another day. I don't know if any of you have notice this but this is the trend I keep noticing. Today is no different. I wonder who comes up with these topics. I also wonder why is it that is on other news shows. Hell, how is it on NBC stations today then on ABC stations tomorrow? I don't have to give you a specific topic because you know what I am talking about. Whether it is about fall fashion to politics, News shows want to somehow control your thinking.
Your thinking may not be your own at times. How many times have you watch something on television only repeat what you heard someone say on the News? You pretend like you have first hand knowledge. Secretly you know it came from the news show you were watching that morning. By round of applause, let me know you been there. Oh, I know some of you do say where you got the information. You know it just goes over better when you seem to have the inside scoop.
I am just getting a little upset about the fact that how some people watch this mess without an analysis eyes. They believe without really thinking things through. Give you an example. Awhile back, they reported Will and Jada Smith were getting a divorce. They even showed you pictures of Will with his son alone and Jada with her daughter alone at different functions. These pictures was enough to say they were getting a divorce, talking about putting the cart before the horse. I remember thinking if I were them and wanted to keep people want to talk about me this would actually cause some director to want to use this little momentum to make some money with me in a movie. I would take a little time to say the rumors are false. See, Will hasn't made a movies in a while so many are wondering what he has been doing Since the movie Seven Pounds. I notice on the news they never responded when they did Will and Jada claimed it was all false.
Okay once again by applause, who thinks that they are looking for some dirt on two successful BLACK PEOPLE that are adding to their family's success with the success of their kids? I'll tell you, I loved the movie the Karate kid but the latest version did the original justice. Black people need to be aware of what is going on in the United States and the world. We just need to take the time out to question it.
Your thinking may not be your own at times. How many times have you watch something on television only repeat what you heard someone say on the News? You pretend like you have first hand knowledge. Secretly you know it came from the news show you were watching that morning. By round of applause, let me know you been there. Oh, I know some of you do say where you got the information. You know it just goes over better when you seem to have the inside scoop.
I am just getting a little upset about the fact that how some people watch this mess without an analysis eyes. They believe without really thinking things through. Give you an example. Awhile back, they reported Will and Jada Smith were getting a divorce. They even showed you pictures of Will with his son alone and Jada with her daughter alone at different functions. These pictures was enough to say they were getting a divorce, talking about putting the cart before the horse. I remember thinking if I were them and wanted to keep people want to talk about me this would actually cause some director to want to use this little momentum to make some money with me in a movie. I would take a little time to say the rumors are false. See, Will hasn't made a movies in a while so many are wondering what he has been doing Since the movie Seven Pounds. I notice on the news they never responded when they did Will and Jada claimed it was all false.
Okay once again by applause, who thinks that they are looking for some dirt on two successful BLACK PEOPLE that are adding to their family's success with the success of their kids? I'll tell you, I loved the movie the Karate kid but the latest version did the original justice. Black people need to be aware of what is going on in the United States and the world. We just need to take the time out to question it.
Tuesday, March 6, 2012
Awaken the Child
Where should I start? I guess it started for me a the age of five. I began to notice things I don't any five year old kid should have notice. It was at this age I manage to learn about being an adult long before I got here. My eyes began there search for truth one summer night when the man in the house told me he was not my father. That is a hard thing to hear at that age. My mother who was there at the time hit him and told him not to tell me things like that. Little did I know, those simple acts would start a chain reaction of events which would change me forever. There were times when my mother own sisters and brothers would make reference to the same thing. They would things like, "I don't know why she say he is not your daddy when you look just like him". After hearing those words, I would go to her each time to ask her and her response would be, " boy you know that is your daddy". Her words never really settled me. It just seemed as though she was tricking me into believing what she needed me to think.
I was one of the kids who was raise by the television. I would watch lots of Sesame street and Electric company. I watched just about anything you could find on public access television. I guess my mother was shocked because I was learning without the aid of her or a teacher. She would began showing me off by asking me about things I learned when people would say how big I have grown. Little did she know I had and goal in mind. I figure I was not smart enough to pick up on the truth that she was hiding from me.
I know you thinking how is it a young boy at that age could even be thinking about such things. It was because of how often the mixed messages came at me. On the one hand there is your mother telling you a man is your daddy and on the hand you have family members say it has told them the opposite, this would make you start to wondering too. I observed everything watching for signs. Signs which would tell me the truth of is he my father or not.
I began to notice the way he would treat my younger sister over me. She could do no wrong in his eyes. If anything happen I got the blame for it. I was treated harsher then she. Now I know you could have attribute this to the fact that she was a girl and I was a boy as for the reason. Yet as time went on so did the abuse and so did the unfair treatment. At the age of 15, I was coming home one night when I notice that a cat was poise on my back porch. It was a stray cat looking for a meal. It lunge toward the outer edge of the trash can and knock it over. I laugh at it but my laughter quickly change. I know if the trash was found the next day knocked over I would get a beating I did not want. I ran the cat away and began cleaning up the mess left behind. Once I was done I went into the house and grab some bleach and pour it over the trash. The man of the house was sure that the bleach would deter the animals from knocking the trash over. I on the other hand thought how stupid and wasteful it was. I reasoned that if they were using dogs to find drugs then a dog would know what food was good to eat. It did not make a matter the next morning it was found knocked over. I was woke up with my daddy enraged over the fact the trash was knocked over. The must have returned and knock it over again even after doing what he had said to do. I guess I was right. It was five in the morning. I was barely awake and trying to get dressed to go take care of the mess. He was screaming as though this trash was the end of the world. He began make himself madder and madder. He came up to me and swung to hit me. I had paid for karate classes during the summer; so it was on reaction that I block the slap which was coming. He ran to the living room and got his gun from underneath the couch cushion. He first ran up and place it up to my face and began to threaten me. I know the question on you mind. Where was your mother? She was there. She never said anything about the gun being pointed at me at all. He let me up the go get the trash up from the yard. Once I got to the porch I jump off. I felt a slight bump on my head as I started to drop to the ground. I heard my mother yelling, " don't hit boy with that gun'.
TO BE CONTINUED...........
I was one of the kids who was raise by the television. I would watch lots of Sesame street and Electric company. I watched just about anything you could find on public access television. I guess my mother was shocked because I was learning without the aid of her or a teacher. She would began showing me off by asking me about things I learned when people would say how big I have grown. Little did she know I had and goal in mind. I figure I was not smart enough to pick up on the truth that she was hiding from me.
I know you thinking how is it a young boy at that age could even be thinking about such things. It was because of how often the mixed messages came at me. On the one hand there is your mother telling you a man is your daddy and on the hand you have family members say it has told them the opposite, this would make you start to wondering too. I observed everything watching for signs. Signs which would tell me the truth of is he my father or not.
I began to notice the way he would treat my younger sister over me. She could do no wrong in his eyes. If anything happen I got the blame for it. I was treated harsher then she. Now I know you could have attribute this to the fact that she was a girl and I was a boy as for the reason. Yet as time went on so did the abuse and so did the unfair treatment. At the age of 15, I was coming home one night when I notice that a cat was poise on my back porch. It was a stray cat looking for a meal. It lunge toward the outer edge of the trash can and knock it over. I laugh at it but my laughter quickly change. I know if the trash was found the next day knocked over I would get a beating I did not want. I ran the cat away and began cleaning up the mess left behind. Once I was done I went into the house and grab some bleach and pour it over the trash. The man of the house was sure that the bleach would deter the animals from knocking the trash over. I on the other hand thought how stupid and wasteful it was. I reasoned that if they were using dogs to find drugs then a dog would know what food was good to eat. It did not make a matter the next morning it was found knocked over. I was woke up with my daddy enraged over the fact the trash was knocked over. The must have returned and knock it over again even after doing what he had said to do. I guess I was right. It was five in the morning. I was barely awake and trying to get dressed to go take care of the mess. He was screaming as though this trash was the end of the world. He began make himself madder and madder. He came up to me and swung to hit me. I had paid for karate classes during the summer; so it was on reaction that I block the slap which was coming. He ran to the living room and got his gun from underneath the couch cushion. He first ran up and place it up to my face and began to threaten me. I know the question on you mind. Where was your mother? She was there. She never said anything about the gun being pointed at me at all. He let me up the go get the trash up from the yard. Once I got to the porch I jump off. I felt a slight bump on my head as I started to drop to the ground. I heard my mother yelling, " don't hit boy with that gun'.
TO BE CONTINUED...........
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