It is so hard to fall in love these days. We use everything in the world at our disposal to make love happen from the clubs to the internet. Once you find love you want it to last forever. So, what causes the change that makes us no longer love the one you are with?
Suppose love is not a feeling but the actions of the one you are with. It was their actions which brought you to how you feel love. In the beginning you got lost in the connections you have with the other person. You found lots of things you had in common. Like jobs you have had, places you have been, even people you know. You were mesmerize by the fact you were having a conversation which was not one sided in which you are being heard. And for most women that is all that is needed the knowledge that a man is really listening to her.
Remember back in one of my older post I said actions speak louder then words. You are listen to the connections, watching him you notice he is not looking at your breast, and he was having genuine conversation with you. Is that all that makes a matter? No, you like the way he dressed and his total look. When you give your number out to him your hopes of him calling are very high. You will call up your best friend or a trusted relative to tell them about the guy you met. This is what I consider to be the blind connection faze. At the onset you are only looking at how much you have in common. Your likes and dislikes seem to be in line with one another. The interesting thing is that you will then use this information to gauge how much trust in that person you will have. The more trust the more of yourself you give. I want you to notice something, you are still looking at the actions which come later to know if the words are true. I care to wager these will not surface right off they will come to you in a form of intuition. It will not be something you see but something you feel is happening. I know you think of it like it is a psychic link with that person, It is not. It is something I mention to you early on when you were in the connection faze. Your subconscious is picking up on the differences of something which was said to you and the actions or that person.
When you fall out of love you notice that you are no longer in line with the person you are with anymore. Sometimes you notice they are no longer in line with you. This is common when one grows and the other tries to stay in what they consider a comfortable position. It is Okay to let go and move on to the next chapter of life. I know we all want to feel like we are doing something wrong when we leave someone in this way, but it was no longer about them. It is now about your growth. Enjoy your growth!
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